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It’s All Good

July 20, 2015

Filed under: Happiness — Tags: , , , — Barry @ 10:28 AM




As I have mentioned in this blog many times, I am a hot yoga enthusiast.  I mostly do it as a form of exercise, a very demanding form of exercise.  Yoga, they say, has many additional benefits, from the medical to the metaphysical.  I really love to sweat.

Occasionally, one might hear something in a Yoga class that can change the way you look at the world.  Just last week my teacher, Leo, said something that made a big difference.

First, let me tell you about Leo.  He’s a professional Bikram teacher, and amateur philosopher.  People flock to his classes for the workout, the philosophy and the humor.  Leo always has a smile on his face…he’s never in a bad mood.

In Philadelphia we have a sports radio broadcaster who when asked how he is doing, always answers, “Never had a bad day in my life.”  Then he goes on complaining, criticizing and condemning just about everyone in town…including his call ins.

But that’s not Leo.  He never complains, condemns or criticizes anything or anyone.  He truly understands Dale Carnegie’s first rule of how to win friends and influence people.

Whenever I meet someone who maintains a genuine positive attitude I am in awe.  I just completed my next book, Short Guide to a Long Career.  I will be distributing it for free at summer’s end.  If you are on my mailing list (See the ADL list on the right >>>), you will get your copy as soon as it’s ready.

In the book I write about what it takes to have a long sustainable career in dentistry.  Most dentists know that is not something to take for granted.  I write about well-being and happiness.  Sustainable happiness.

The positive psychologists tell us that well-being is determined by 5 nutriments:

  1. Positive Emotions
  2. Engaging Work
  3. Positive Relationships
  4. Meaningful Work
  5. Achievement

The first one…positive emotions is a tough one…especially in such an emotional profession like dentistry.  Staying positive has always been my biggest challenge.  I suppose it’s a big challenge for other dentists too…with all of the negative complaining, criticizing and condemning I read online these days.

Let me return to Leo…how does he do it?

During our last class I listened as he taught the students.  He corrected people and as he noticed frustration—he just said, almost as an automatic response – “It’s all good.”

Then it hit me—he created a thought habit—“It’s all good.”

And it is!

So I have been practicing.  I slow down and think.  No matter what happens—I choose my response…and it’s all good.

It has a great calming effect.  Days go by much better…I have more energy.  Negative energy can suck the life right out of you.

Norman Vincent Peale was right—there is power in a positive mental attitude.  The problem is how to maintain it…

Try it…it can’t hurt…It’s all good.





Get Out of the Comfort Zone

January 6, 2014

Filed under: Business of Dentistry,Self-development — Tags: , — Barry @ 10:30 PM



On Friday morning January 3rd, 2014, I woke up to the first snowstorm of the year.  Six inches covered the ground and would be a big obstacle for me to get to my 9:30 hot yoga class.  I could feel the resistance that pressed against my covers, but I pushed them off and began my ritual of showering and drinking 72 oz. of water.  Then I checked the web to see if the class was cancelled…Luckily for my bladder, the class was on.

I live in the woods.  The plows never come down my road…it’s dirt and gravel, so I had to mash my way through the snow to get to the class.  When I arrived I was met by four other hearty souls and the teacher.

The reward:  the best hot yoga class ever—and the heat felt sooo good.

That’s usually the payoff for breaking through resistance.

We face resistance everyday of our lives.  We have this preference for comfort and low stress.  Yet, as I always say, “The insecure path is the secure path in the end.”

Just last week I started a complex restorative case involving ten upper teeth.  The case included an implant, several veneers and crowns, and some pink porcelain.  My patient traveled over three hours for the appointment.  I worked slow and methodically to get all of the information required for the case.

I checked the impression and was pleased that I captured every margin.  I placed the temporaries and sent my patient on his way home.  An hour later, my son Josh who is also my lab technician, informed me that I would have to retake the impression.

“Why?”  I asked.

He said although the margins were great, because we would be using refractory dies that the pulls in the non-strategic areas would not allow him to get accurate dies.  I would have to call the patient back for another impression.

I felt resistance.

My patient would have to take another day off from work, drive six more hours, have his temps removed and have another impression…yes,with local anesthesia.

I felt resistance.

I didn’t want to make that call...yet I was the only one who could make that call.

So I did, and he totally understood.  He wants the case to come out as perfect as possible.  I felt better having broken through the resistance.

Everyday, no matter what line of work we are in or no matter what goals we set for ourselves, we will meet resistance.  When you feel that uncomfortable sensation in your gut, that’s resistance.  Telling you to stay put.  In your comfort zone.

Pushing through is the key to success.  So as we begin this new year…if you have made resolutions, realize that you should still being going to the gym in April…and along the way you will feel lots of resistance.



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