January 10, 2015. The second Saturday of the New Year and my 8 AM Bikram Yoga class is way too overcrowded. It happens every year. January always shows an increase in attendance at Yoga, gyms and Weight Watchers. “It’s okay,” I tell myself, all will be back to normal by February. Leo the Sage tells us to set a yoga goal this year. I think to myself, “I set that goal four years ago…I need a new goal for this year.”
Later on I tell Leo, “It won’t work, human nature will take over, they’ll be gone…something will stop them, I’m a dentist, I know all about objections.”
Fear, money, time, procrastination. The list goes on, but it’s all about resistance. Resistance is the enemy and resistance essentially is fear.
During Leo’s rap (he never stays on script, that’s what makes him a sage.), I hear references to so many other things beyond Yoga. I wish all the dental lecturers would slip in some good self-help in their lectures, but that will never happen.
During the second posture I hear Leo say, “Pulling is the object of stretching.” I think about my other goals…like writing this blog post, or the book I promised myself to write this year. That’s what writing feels like sometimes, pulling.
Yoga is easy I think, it’s been four years…three days per week. It’s become a habit, like my examination process. But writing and meditating, those are my demons.
The blog post…easy peasy…the book, that’s a stretch goal.
“Pulling is the object of stretching.”
A few postures later, the standing bow pose, one of the more difficult balancing poses, Leo tells us, “Go ahead, fall out…but get back in.” I think about all the times I have fallen out…and got back in. That’s the key…the getting back in. So many people are too worried about the falling out part.
Once the fear comes…just breath…slow down the heart rate. I think to myself, “I didn’t write yesterday…get back in that chair today.”
“If you fall, get back in.”
When we do the fixed firm posture, a severe back bend, I feel proud because this is one posture I have had a lot of success with over the past four years. I remember when I could barely go back 20 degrees. Now I can can place my head to to floor…not perfect but pretty damn good for an old man. Many of the new kids on the block can’t do it…they’re 20 degree-ers. Leo tells them to just go where they can’t go anymore…”go to your edge…feel the resistance.”
I laugh…because I have been there. So many are afraid of the resistance. They back off. They would be surprised to know how far they really could go.
” Go to the edge…feel the resistance.”
The resistance is your friend.
“We are often reluctant to set very meaningful, difficult goals for ourselves. But well over 1000 studies show that when people set difficult and specific goals for themselves, they are vastly more successful and vastly more satisfied and happy with their lives than when they just say ‘well, I’m going to do my best'”.
- Fear of failure – I can’t do Yoga, I’m not flexible enough. One might also say… I can’t meditate, my mind wanders, or I can’t write, (speak in public).
- Fear of embarrassment – I look like a fool doing this stuff…I’ll never be as good as that young girl.
- Fear of losing control – like passing out in class? Ooh, how embarrassing. In four years, I never saw that happen, and I’ve been in some pretty hot rooms.
- Fear of rejection – All classes are beginner’s classes—after four years, I’m a beginner. Once you think you’ve arrived, you already begun your descent.
- Fear of confrontation — confront who? you say. Confronting yourself…the biggest obstacle.
- Fear of isolation – Joe Campbell once said of all heroes—when you reach your goal—you thought you would be alone, but you are one with all the world.
- Fear of change – ahh the good old comfort zone.
I think about three words all the time…destiny, innovation and change. The world is always changing, and we must change with it.
See how much you can learn in just one Saturday morning Yoga class?
People are, “funny”.
Comment by Roger — January 13, 2015 @ 11:05 AM
Yes roger–most people are “funny.”
Comment by Barry — January 13, 2015 @ 11:06 AM
Barry, I have always been impressed with your expansive reading. Would you care to share some of your favorite titles?
Comment by James Craig — January 13, 2015 @ 11:29 AM
Sure Jim— I can tell you it’s quite extensive— I can write a blog post this week —what topics are you specifically interested in? Because it’s January I am reading a lot on goal setting, time management and health and fitness.
Comment by Barry — January 13, 2015 @ 11:33 AM
Those would be a good starting point. Also, any readings that you find helpful with gaining a healthy perspective on life in general. As you know in dentistry we tend to be a bit isolated and become overly introspective and critical of ourselves.
Comment by James Craig — January 13, 2015 @ 12:16 PM
So self-help is your thing. Good…mine too. There are so many good books—and so many bad ones. In the end most authors are saying the same thing…like dentists. The best ones are able to organize and express themselves simply and clearly.
I think Covey—the original was very good at that—his 7 Habits is a classic—but I liked The 8th Habit better.
Good to Great by Collins is very good. Getting Things Done by David Allen–tedious but worth it. Goals by Brian Tracy. Made to Stick by the Heath Brothers. By far my favorite is Dan Pink—anything and everything by him is good.
I also likeed 10% Happier by Dan Harris…on meditation—a worthy endeavor.
Comment by Barry Polansky — January 13, 2015 @ 12:49 PM